Be Calm In Conflict starting today

The course is housed on a well-structured course platform. Each module is there with a video and any related pdfs and documents.

Yes. All digital materials are delivered immediately upon payment and they’re yours for life. Do the course at your own pace. Do it as many times as you like. Of course, live sessions - individual or group - are scheduled and only happen once. The teaching portion of the group meetings will be recorded and available to participants of this program.

All kinds. You may want to hold onto your calm in your relationship with your life partner, your child, or another close relative. Or maybe you have recurrent conflicts with your boss or a close friend. Anyone who’s important to you and who you have conflict with in a way that disrupts your life.

Yes. The tools I teach are simple and doable even with no background in mindfulness. Each course also includes an intro to mindfulness so you’ll get the basics.

These tools will change your high-conflict relationship. When you handle it differently and think during conflict, everything will go better. The question is whether this work will change the other person’s behavior. Over time, I’ve seen this happen. But it’s impossible to know. No matter what, practicing Calm In Conflict will make your life better. Not only will conflict stop throwing you off, you’ll also be more able to bring up difficult issues, because you’ll know how to handle conflict if it happens. You’ll also refine your mindfulness skills. Practicing mindfulness during conflict increases your ability to do it everywhere else.

If you do them, they’ll work. It’s a practice that changes your response. So all you have to do is use these tools during conflict even just a little, and they’ll help you. What if you can’t do them during conflict? That happens frequently. Since we’re so triggered during fights and arguments, you can come out of conflict going “oh no, I didn’t do it!”. I’ve got you covered. There’s a whole module in the course that’s exactly about what to do after the fight and before the next one if you didn’t manage to use the tools the way you wanted to.

You’ll be surprised. Listen or watch just twenty minutes of the course and you’ll be able to start using the tools. Using them just a little can make a significant difference in your life. This work will save you so much time that gets wasted during and after conflict. My clients and participants report that fights and arguments end sooner. And even more importantly, they’re able to get back to whatever they had planned much quicker and with their mindset intact.

I’m not going to tell you that it takes two. A wise therapist once said - sometimes it’s just one person who makes everything terrible. But no matter how they’re acting - assuming that we’re not talking about physical or intense emotional abuse - you can change how it affects you. One of the things that can keep you stuck in fights and arguments is thinking that you can’t do anything about it because it’s all their fault. That may be true. It may be entirely their fault. But that doesn’t mean you’re helpless. What works is to say: what can I accomplish here? And what you can accomplish is holding onto your own state of mind, your own behavior, and how conflict affects the rest of your life and your day.

Many of my clients and participants have lived with long-term conflict. Often, it’s the same arguments that come up over and over and have been unresolved for years, no matter what they’ve tried. Issues like extreme differences in parenting approaches or financial stress. Or they’re living with someone who is consistently demanding and critical. My favorite part of the course is the module on Long Term Unresolved Conflict. I’ve seen it heal relationships that you’d never imagine could be healed. In this module, you’ll learn three processes that will help you stop being held hostage by the other person’s critical or demanding behavior, even if you never resolve the main issues of conflict. You’ll be able to take back your power, regardless of their opinions and their behavior. You’ll also learn how to use Radical Listening. This is where relationship transformation comes in. Yes, it takes time. And no, it doesn’t always create the relationship you’ve been dreaming of. But using these tools will make your life better.

You’re right. You don’t have to. It’s a choice. Learn the tools so that you have the option of choosing your response. You may choose to let it rip. That’s fine. Or you may find that that makes things worse for you and that you’d rather do something else. It’s up to you.